How to Feedback: Getting it is a Gift
We’ve been talking about How to Feedback: all the tips and tools to GIVE it so it has impact, accelerates growth and elevates culture.
Turns out some of the same things that make you a good feedback giver also make you a good feedback getter.
In this week’s conversation Annalise and I go deep on how to receive feedback so you can be a badass at work (and in life).
Watch here grasshoppers. It’s the grand finale of our 4 part series on How to Feedback—Getting it Is a Gift
This one is a little longer (30 + minutes) but it’s worth every second 🙂.
Key takeaways
Getting feedback can feel like a threat to our core identities of competency and security, and in some ways, the higher you go, the greater the sense of threat
Asking yourself HOW is this feedback true (not whether or not it’s true) is a gamechanger
Feeling a little sting or surprised by feedback? Ask for time to process it before you respond or get into action mode on “fixing” it
Blaming the messenger is a waste of your time and energy
Reflection Questions
When you get feedback try asking yourself HOW it’s true rather than IF it’s true
What would be possible for you if you accept feedback as a gift for your growth, regardless of how it’s given to you?
How will you build a greater sense of agency around your growth so you can integrate feedback with less drama? (eg; You can’t always choose WHEN you get feedback but you can choose how you respond. And when).
Resources
Simple tips from a short Pod: How to Increase Your Emotional Intelligence (in conversations)
If you get unmoored by other people’s opinions of you, read Mel Robbin’s The Let Them Theory for some grounding
More in this series:
How to Feedback Part 1—What Makes It So Hard?
How to Feedback Part 2—To Give it You’ve Got to Get it
How to Feedback Part 3—Facts, Follow-up, and Keeping it Real
Part 4 of our How to Feedback Series is coming to you in August. It’s all about how to receive feedback, regardless of how it’s given. You won’t want to miss this one 🙂.